Amber Portwood’s Daughter Shares Lasting ‘Issues’ From Her Mom
Sometimes you actually can choose your family.
Or, at least, Teen Mom offspring Leah Shirley is hoping that's the case as the 16-year-old daughter of OG star Amber Portwood explores the process of having stepmom Kristina Shirley officially adopt her.
"I want to be adopted because Kristina's been there my whole life," the Indiana-based teen explained on the March 13 episode of Teen Mom: The Next Chapter. "I just feel like it should be official. And it's more than a piece of paper to me."
But the high schooler also knows that it'd require more than just filling out some forms.
After her dad Gary Shirley—who ended his three-year engagement to Amber in 2011—visited with an attorney to learn their options, he explained that the process could be long and arduous.
"If everything was to go smoothly, after filing paperwork, which you would have to sign some stuff, too, it could take three months," he explained to his daughter on the MTV series. "If Amber contests, then it could take, like, a year. It could take longer."
Which means they could be signing up for a brutal battle.
"If we say something or do something, she might try to do stuff and make it harder," responded Leah, who lives with Gary, Kristina and their 9-year-old daughter Emilee. "And by then it might take two years. And then at that point, there’s no point in even going through all the trouble for it. So, I don’t know. I’ll have to think about it."
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Among the issues the teen is mulling over was how her mom—who doesn't have custody of her or her 6-year-old son James with former fiancé Andrew Glennon—might react to the legal maneuver.
"I really want to do it," Leah told cameras, "but I'm scared it would make Amber mad. I don't like being mean to people."
Which is why her father suggested discussing the issue with her therapist and "kind of see what would emotionally be best for you," Gary told Leah. "I know that your mom loves you, but for some reason she doesn’t know how to show it. But I want you to know that we’re here to help you and to be with you. I’m what you call your ride or die."
According to Gary, though, Amber has been more of an infrequent passenger.
During his meeting with lawyer Trina Saunders, Gary claimed that Amber "is not really involved," claiming that "in the past year, she has seen her daughter four days."
And while he knows Amber would contest a potential adoption—which would make Kristina Leah's mother, even placing her on the birth certificate—he believes it's worth the battle.
"If something happens to me, I don't see Amber being what Leah needs," Gary explained. "I need to know if something happens to me, Leah is safe."
Because while Leah and Amber have had a strained relationship in recent years, her bond with Kristina is rock solid, regardless of what it might say on paper.
"Leah's going to weigh her options, talk to her therapist and decide what route she wants to go," Kristina shared on the episode. "I will do whatever she wants. Nothing will change the way that I love that girl."
Of course, she's not the only franchise star to have found the loves of her life. Check out the other Teen Mom standouts who have found their happily ever after.
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Catelynn Lowell & Tyler Baltierra
Viewers watched Catelynn Lowell and now-husband Tyler Baltierra make the difficult choice to place their first daughter, Carly, for adoption, in 2009 on the inaugural season of 16 and Pregnant. After 13 years together, the fan-favorite couple wed in August 2015 and have since had three more daughters: Novalee, Vaeda and Rya.
While the absence of Carly—who lives with her adoptive parents, Brandon and Teresa Davis—still aches, the couple keep fighting for a future.
Their hope is their bond "is whatever she wants," Catelynn told E! News in January 2025. "Whether she just wants a relationship with her biological siblings, if she wants to have a relationship with us, awesome. If she doesn't, totally understand. Whatever that looks like for her. Because it needs to be adoptee-centered."
Maci Bookout & Ryan Edwards
Together less than six months when she got pregnant, viewers saw Maci Bookout struggle with an irresponsible Ryan Edwards on 16 and Pregnant. Though they got engaged, the high school sweethearts split less than a year after their son Bentley was born in 2008.
These days they're focused on building a co-parenting relationship. "We're in a good place," Maci revealed to E! News in 2023, adding that Ryan is showing up "more consistently now than maybe he ever has before."
Maci Bookout & Taylor McKinney
Maci found her forever teammate in Texan Taylor McKinney in 2012 and the pair soon began building up their squad. They welcomed daughter Jayde in May 2015 and son Maverick a year later, then wed in Florida that October.
Partners in parenting, life and their TTM Lifestyle fashion brand, "He's just my person," she told E! News in 2023. "Even when we've had a rough year together, I think at the end of the day, I still choose him. I like him. And even if I want to punch him in the face sometimes, I'd rather argue with him or have a rough patch with him than never have a rough patch with anybody else."
Cheyenne Floyd & Cory Wharton
Despite moving on with new significant others, the MTV stars, who connected while filming The Challenge, continue to co-parent their daughter Ryder together.
"Our biggest thing since day one of Cory coming into Ryder's life was what kind of dad he wanted to be and what kind of parent he wanted to be," Cheyenne explained to E! News in March 2020. "I wasn't going to allow him to be a Disneyland dad or an Instagram dad or just in the moment. He had to be 100 percent. I think from the beginning, he saw my mindset and appreciated it so that's why we co-parent so well."
Cheyenne Floyd & Zach Davis
After their romance ended in 2018, the pair decided to give their relationship a second chance. While celebrating her 28th birthday, Cheyenne confirmed on Instagram that she was back with Zach. In May 2021, the couple welcomed their first child together, son Ace, and got married in September 2022.
"We spent the past two years knocking things off our list," Cheyenne told E! News in 2024. "We wanted to have a baby, we had Ace. We wanted to get married, we had our wedding. We wanted to buy a house, we bought our house."
And now, she continued, "I don't want to do anything. I don't want to set a goal. I want to sit down. I want to be really still. My goal is to be still and just to be happy with where we're at. And just to like each other. That's it. I want nothing else."
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Cory Wharton & Taylor Selfridge
Connecting while filming Ex on the Beach may not sound like the start of a love story, but several years and two kids—daughters Mila and Maya—later, Cory and Are You the One? alum Taylor Selfridge are still making waves.
"We just bought a house," he shared with E! News in 2023, before bringing up that, yes, he's aware that people want to know when they're getting married. "It's definitely being talked about. We have everything but the ring and me just letting her know. Taylor deserves that and it's something that I want and she wants. Right now we're just taking steps to get there."
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Ryan Edwards & Mackenzie Standifer
Testing the limits of for-better-or-for-worse, Ryan checked into rehab not long after he married Mackenzie Standifer in May 2017, with her giving birth to their first son Jagger in 2018 while Ryan was still in treatment.
Though the pair would welcome daughter Stella in January 2020, Mackenzie filed for divorce three years later. Ryan is now engaged to Amanda Conner, who's expecting their first child together.
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Amber Portwood & Gary Shirley
While their very contentious romance came to an end for good in 2013, the couple managed to co-parent their now-teenage daughter Leah for years.
"We have fun together but at a distance," Amber told E! News in January 2022. "But our relationship is good. It's a family now so we treat it as a family more than anything else."
Though, of course, sometimes families fight. In recent years, Amber has taken to social media with enough claims about Gary to suggest they're no longer the friendliest of exes.
Amber Portwood & Matt Baier
After several years together, a proposal and one unsuccessful stint on Marriage Boot Camp, Amber and Boston transplant Matt Baier called off their engagement in 2017.
"Honestly, you just get to a point when you're done hearing things and you just start to not care in a relationship and I think that's what started happening to me and him," Amber revealed on Dr. Drew Pinsky's podcast later that year. "I started not to care anymore about the relationship like you should. I put a wall up so I wouldn't get hurt again pretty much."
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Amber Portwood & Andrew Glennon
Amber did find love while filming Marriage Boot Camp—connecting with crew member Andrew Glennon while on set. The pair made their debut as a couple at the 2017 MTV Movie Awards and in May 2018, Amber gave birth to the couple's first child, James.
But the couple separated not long after Amber was arrested for domestic battery in July 2019. And after a contentious court battle, California native Andrew was awarded sole legal and primary physical custody of their son in 2022.
"I've worked so hard to better myself and improve my relationships with my children," the Teen Mom star told E! News at the time. "While I've always been candid about my past substance abuse and struggles with mental illness, a person should have the chance to redeem themselves and not be tethered to their problems from the past."
Determined not to give up, she added, "If your road has not been perfect, but you've worked hard to become a better, more stable and caring person today, keep moving forward as I will. I'll never stop fighting for my children who I love more than anything."
Amber Portwood & Dimitri Garcia
After meeting Amber on the Internet, Dimitri Garcia made his Teen Mom OG debut in April 2020. "Dimitri is from Belgium. He's 39 so he's 10 years older
than me. But he's a very handsome man," Amber shared on the show. "I started opening up to him and we decided we should meet since we like each other."
In April 2021, Amber revealed on the Teen Mom OG reunion special that she was still dating Dimitri. "We've known each other now for 18 months," she explained. "But I haven't seen him in a year though." Though the pair never officially announced a split, Amber introduced new flame Gary Wayt during a June 2024 episode of Teen Mom: The Next Chapter.
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Amber Portwood & Gary Wayt
After Amber connected with Gary 2.0 on a dating app in the fall of 2023, he zoomed into the picture when the Teen Mom vet introduced him to her castmates during a virtual chat.
Though he proposed in May 2024, their betrothal was short-lived. While in North Carolina for her brother's wedding that June, Gary ran off after the pair had a fight, leading Amber to report him as missing.
And while Gary was soon located, the duo's engagment wasn't the only thing left broken.
"I've had to deal with thinking my fiancé was dead for three to four days," Amber said on Teen Mom: The Next Chapter. "I had to deal with literally grieving and trying to make sense of why the f--k would somebody do this to me. I am going through something right now."
"This man broke me," she continued. "I was stable. Right now, this is the first time in years in my life I am not f--king right because a man put a ring on my finger."
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Gary Shirley & Kristina Anderson
Months after Gary and now-wife Kristina Anderson welcomed daughter Emilee in April 2015, they wed in a sweet beach ceremony.
"You are one of the most beautiful souls I know," Gary wrote in a 2022 Instagram post. "I don’t know how I would do this without you."
Farrah Abraham & Derek Underwood
The father of Farrah Abraham's daughter Sophia died in an accident two months prior to her birth in December 2008.
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Farrah Abraham & Simon Saran
For her first serious relationship since the death of her high school boyfriend, Farrah dated real estate agent Simon Saran on and off for over two years.
Though their 2017 split got ugly (as in cease-and-desist ugly), the two gave a stab at trying to remain friends. Sorta.
"I have no hard feelings against Farrah," Simon told E! News at the time. "We are just from two different worlds. She likes the fake life, I want what's real. I wish the best for her and much success in all of her future endeavors."
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Jenelle Evans & Andrew Lewis
Jenelle Evans and Andrew Lewis, parents to now-teenage Jace, split not long after his 2009 birth, with the model having no involvement in his son's life.
“I do feel bad because that’s Jace's dad," Jenelle reflected on a 2019 episode of Teen Mom 2. "But I know how he is, and I don’t want him to disappoint my son. I don’t want [him] to pop back in and then pop back out."
Jenelle Evans & David Eason
After a one-year marriage to Courtland Rogers, and having her second child, Kaiser, with ex-boyfriend Nathan Griffin in 2014, Jenelle wed David Eason on their North Carolina property in September 2017, eight months after they welcomed their daughter Ensley.
After a particularly rocky stretch saw David charged with a child abuse misdemeanor involving Jace (at the time, Jenelle likened it to a "smear campaign"), Jenelle revealed they had separated. "I would've skipped straight to divorce but I couldn't because in the state of North Carolina, you have to be legally separated for a year," she explained on social media, "and you have to prove you have two separate addresses."
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Chelsea Houska & Adam Lind
Remember the charmer who asked then-girlfriend Chelsea Houska when he could "sign the papers over for that mistake"?
Completely in the rearview.
Against all odds, the Teen Mom star-turned-HGTV personality has a somewhat copacetic relationship with her high school ex Adam Lind, mom to her eldest daughter Aubree. “There’s no bad vibes and it’s just a very open relationship," she told Us Weekly. "There’s no bad feelings. We see him sometimes and it’s totally fine."
Chelsea Houska & Cole DeBoer
What began as a meet-cute at a gas station in 2014 became forever when Chelsea and Cole DeBoer wed in October 2016. After welcoming son Watson in 2017 and daughters Layne and Walker in 2018 and 2021, respectively, the pair launched a new joint project: Their HGTV series Down Home Fab.
"If we were going to come back to TV, I wanted it to be something lighthearted, feel good and be able to show our authentic selves," Chelsea explained to E! News, sharing why this move felt "so right." As she put it, "This was just such a cool opportunity to do that."
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Leah Messer & Corey Simms
Though then-high schooler Leah Messer and Corey Simms fought to turn their friendship into a forever family, the parents to now-teenage twins Aleeah and Aliannah filed for divorce six months after their October 2010 wedding.
Corey has been married to Miranda Patterson since 2013.
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Leah Messer & Jeremy Calvert
Leah went on to wed pipeliner Jeremy Calvert in 2012, the couple welcoming daughter Adalynn the next year.
Though they split in 2015, they have made an effort to co-parent their daughter with sometimes mixed results. "I'm looking at a complete, better version of myself," Leah told E! News of her girls. "And seeing everything that they love and enjoy doing, and being able to support them in their lives and be a part of it is magical. I love it. I love being a mom, especially a girl mama."
Leah Messer & Jaylan Mobley
By the time Leah went Instagram official with Jaylan Mobley in 2021, the United States Army officer had already charmed her and her daughters.
The couple announced their engagement in August 2022, but broke up that October.
"I needed that breakup," the Teen Mom star confessed to E! News a year later. "I've learned a lot from my last breakup and, moving forward, I do feel like my life is just beginning."
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Kailyn Lowry & Jo Rivera
Kailyn Lowry was just 17 when she and high school boyfriend Jo Rivera welcomed their eldest son, Isaac, in 2010.
And though they split a year later, they've since settled into a comfortable co-parenting arrangement, Kailyn even hosting her now-canceled Baby Mamas No Drama podcast with Jo's wife Vee Torres. "We’ve come a long way since we were 18," Kailyn wrote on X after attending Jo and Vee's 2018 wedding. "I couldn’t ask for a better stepmom for isaac."
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Kailyn Lowry & Javi Marroquin
Kailyn's second son Lincoln joined the squad in November 2013, roughly a year after the then-star of Teen Mom 2 wed his father Javi Marroquin.
Splitting in late 2016, their relationship has been rocky at times, with Javi and fiancée Lauren Comeau—already parents to son Eli—announcing in December 2023 that they were expecting their second child together, a girl.
Kailyn Lowry & Chris Lopez
Though Kailyn welcomed sons Lux and Creed with boyfriend Chris Lopez during their on-and-off romance, they eventually called it quits for good.
"Right now, we don't communicate at all," she revealed to E! News in 2020. "I'm hoping that it will get better with time but I don't have a big vision. I don't have anything negative to say. I hope for our kids that everything works itself out in whatever direction that may be."
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Kailyn Lowry & Elijah Scott
With current partner Elijah Scott, Kailyn finally feels she has a strong foundation. "It's been very different from my other partners and my kids' other dads," she told People of Elijah, dad to her son Rio and twins Verse and Valley. "He pours concrete, he gets down and dirty at work. But he's also just a real family man. He's very, very much connected with his own family, with our family, and so he's been a really good partner to me, and I feel like it's a really good match."
A strong enough one that she finally said yes to one of his many proposals, in fact.
"He asked me to marry him several times and I never said no," Kailyn insisted to E! News in September 2024 of her neighbor-turned-life partner. "I was just like, 'Yes, but not right now.'"
And though she acknowledged that the construction worker "definitely changed my stance on marriage," she's not exactly rushing out to buy a white dress. Joked Kailyn, "How soon we get married depends on the day that you ask me now."
Jade Cline & Sean Austin
Though Indiana-based Jade Cline and Sean Austin had more than their share of ups and down since welcoming daughter Kloie in 2017, in January 2022 Jade teased to fans that they were on the rise.
"There were some major, major things that happened with our lives and major improvements that happen with Sean's life as well and with his future," she told E! News. "I'm really proud of him and where we are today." Eight months later, the pair announced their engagement, marrying in October 2023.
"I know for sure my relationship isn't always perfect," Jade told E! News in 2024. "But we love each other and we make it work."
Ashley Jones & Bar Smith
California natives Ashley Jones and Bar Smith privately wed in 2021—four years after they welcomed daughter Holly.
But after calling off their romance several times, Ashley officially filed for divorce in 2024.
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Briana DeJesus & Devoin Austin II
Years after 16 and Pregnant star Briana DeJesus and Devoin Austin II welcomed their daughter Nova in 2011, they flirted with giving their romance another shot.
These days, however, Briana told E! News in 2024, "I want a man man, I don't want a little boy that I've been so used to dating back in the past."
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Briana DeJesus & Luis Miguel
After starring on the single season of Teen Mom 3, Briana joined the cast of Teen Mom 2 in its eighth season, and gave birth to her second daughter, Stella, with ex-boyfriend Luis Miguel, on July 2017.
Since then, Luis' involvement has been spotty at best. "I think he wants a family with me," Briana explained to Dr. Drew in a December 2019 Teen Mom 2 episode, "and since I'm not giving that to him, he just wants to stay away completely."